When we’re having trouble maintaining our ground or ourselves, we play all kinds of tricks. That trickery brings hope and fear. You’re so tempted; at the same time, you’re so afraid. Decency is being free from trickery, free from the tricks we play on ourselves or on each other to maintain our basic existence. In that way, decency is being loyal to others, loyal to the most intimate experiences that you’ve shared with others. Loyalty is twofold. Quite simply, it is a commitment to (1) working gently with yourself and (2) being kind to others.
From Great Eastern Sun: The Wisdom of Shambhala by Chögyam Trungpa, page 137.