None of us wants to be miserable; we all want to be happy. But we can’t achieve this aim is we stay stuck in biased, narrow-minded thinking. No matter how much we long for joy, it will elude us if we continue buying into concepts of right and wrong, good and bad, acceptance and rejection. What ultimately frees us from these constricting patterns is to stop reifying our experience, and to connect with the ineffable, groundless nature of all phenomena.
From No Time to Lose: A Timely Guide to the Way of the Bodhisattva by Pema Chödrön, page 112