We worry a lot, yet we are often unaware of our worries and their connection to our thoughts, ideas, opinions, or doubts about things. We may think we can solve things by worrying, but that is a misconception. By introducing your children to the wondrous world of thoughts, you can teach them to have some influence over these thoughts. You can make the following suggestions:
• Don’t believe all thoughts (the thought “I’ll never manage to get a good grade” is not true).
• Realize that you are not your thoughts (“I’m sure I’m not nice, pretty, or funny enough”).
• Jot down your top three most common worries.
• Notice these worries whenever they occur in the next couple of days, without getting caught up in them. If you observe them and don’t always take them seriously, your worries can automatically extinguish, like a flame deprived of oxygen. That said, some thoughts keep coming back. These deserve special attention. They may have an underlying cause that must be examined, acknowledged, and understood before they stop nagging you.