By developing gentleness toward ourselves, the irritation of being with oneself is taken away. When that kind of friendliness to oneself occurs, then one also develops friendliness toward the rest of the world. At that point, sadness, loneliness, and wretchedness begin to dissipate. We develop a sense of humor. We don’t get so pissed off if we have a bad cup of coffee in the morning. Appreciating our human dignity comes from that.
From Smile at Fear: Awakening the True Heart of Bravery by Chögyam Trungpa, page 36